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by sdroa jists 10/23/2011, 7:41am PDT |
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Before I start, we are both in our 20s who have been together for over 1 year, now. Long distance; together for 3 months, apart for 10, together for the last 3, now apart again (I go to school elsewhere). It is important to stress, this is an extremely committed relationship between adults.
I am in college, and know what I want to do with my life. On schedule to graduate in 2 years with an International Relations degree that will VERY likely lead to me leaving my rural US town.
My boyfriend, however, doesn't have the same drive. He was in school, left for 2 years, trying to get back in this fall... but he doesn't really seem to know what he wants to do with his life. One day, he's going to write for TV, the next he is going for a business degree, then teaching... He is extraordinarily charismatic and well-suited to any one of these positions, but he lacks the commitment necessary to complete any one of them. Try as I might to support him in any one of them, his goals change every month.
I'm not going to break-up with him over going to school. But I am having a really hard time getting him to realize that I need him to start doing something. He has been out of high school for 5 years. He still has no career in mind. I was understanding for the first year of our relationship (things happen at different paces for everyone), but if he does NOT return to school this semester, he will not be graduating at the same time I will, and thus I will be jetting off to Africa, or New York, or Milan without him.
Our relationship is hard enough from 4 hours away right now; time zones are going to be almost impossible. How to I aid his great ambition, but give it some focus, without seeming bossy? I frankly have become very tired with all of the ideas and talk, and need action. Our future together hangs in the balance of him getting his shit together. |
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official red pill thread of caltrops by sdroa jists 10/23/2011, 7:32am PDT
intervention by sdroa jists 10/23/2011, 7:38am PDT
this is an extremely committed relationship between adults by sdroa jists 10/23/2011, 7:41am PDT
women are like grenades: throw them away before they explode by sdroa jists 10/23/2011, 10:15pm PDT
typical whore upset that whore behavior was exposed during whore convention by sdroa jists 10/31/2011, 2:25am PDT
they're in love she's in love it's love can't you see the love love is all you n by sdroa jists 11/12/2011, 10:25am PST
Why do you care about this, you piece of shit? NT by No woman will ever love you. 11/18/2011, 1:26pm PST
Hmmm, answered my own NT by question, didn't I? 11/18/2011, 1:26pm PST
1/4 American women take medication for a mental disorder by sdroa jists 11/18/2011, 12:13am PST
divorced 3 days after nearly dying by sdroa jists 11/18/2011, 5:05am PST
Was this trucker merried to Newt Gingrich? NT by Intentional Controversy Maker 11/18/2011, 10:18am PST
Even worse, this evil ex-wife uploaded a video of the aftermath to youtube! by Mischief Maker 11/18/2011, 10:28am PST
what could create LESS conflict than an office staffed with/run by women? by sdroa jists 11/22/2011, 8:02am PST
Reading this thread is like watching Tommy Wiseau's "The Room" over and over and by Mischief Wronged Saintly Man 11/22/2011, 9:22am PST
Re: official red pill thread of caltrops by motherfuckerfoodeater 11/23/2011, 11:09pm PST
idiot woman wins lottery, spends all the money on stupid shit, is now broke by sdroa jists 11/24/2011, 3:09am PST
Re: idiot woman wins lottery, spends all the money on stupid shit, is now broke by ndd 11/24/2011, 11:10am PST
Elven deltoid. NT by Gutsby 11/24/2011, 11:39am PST
elven degeneres NT by gruman 11/24/2011, 1:59pm PST
His face really disturbs me :( NT by Worm 11/24/2011, 1:28pm PST
What do your elf eyes see? NT by They're taking the hobbits to Iseng 11/26/2011, 10:42pm PST
local red pill: sasy by sdroa jists 11/29/2011, 12:43am PST
All these new internet buddies of yours are just clones of BDR. NT by Mischief Nice Guy 11/29/2011, 4:34am PST
You really love pictures of beautiful men that much? by ndd 11/29/2011, 12:40pm PST
single moms and nice guys by sdroa jists 11/29/2011, 1:25am PST
Psh! She "doesn't like reading much." Not that I'm being judgmental. NT by Mischief Nice Guy 11/29/2011, 4:33am PST
He also took NO joy in this happening or writing that or making it a lesson for by all women 11/29/2011, 6:26am PST
Here's that post in youtube form by Mischief Nice Guy 11/29/2011, 4:35pm PST
The Josh Cable Man!-ifesto by hahahahaha 11/29/2011, 6:18am PST
One day he'll call up Jhoh and ask to be taken back. But Jhoh will say NO OFFENS NT by E, BUT YOU BLEW IT 11/29/2011, 6:24am PST
That statement needs a O_O NT by WITTGENSTEIN 11/29/2011, 3:33pm PST
Re: single moms and nice guys by Mysterio 11/29/2011, 10:18am PST
Maybe you'd also like a little military action? by ndd 11/29/2011, 12:48pm PST
Man, even his cheeks are ripped! by motherfuckerfoodeater 11/29/2011, 2:02pm PST
Not gay! by ndd 11/29/2011, 2:09pm PST
Today: discomfort abou how a man's cheeks make me feel. . . by motherfuckerfoodeater 11/29/2011, 8:20pm PST
white knight brigade by sdroa jists 12/11/2011, 4:42pm PST
Re: white knight brigade by motherfuckerfoodeater 12/11/2011, 6:53pm PST
Isn't it just a sterotypical case of sour grapes? by The Happiness Engine 12/12/2011, 11:38am PST
Re: Isn't it just a sterotypical case of sour grapes? by Mysterio 12/12/2011, 4:26pm PST
Re: white knight brigade by ndd 12/11/2011, 10:13pm PST
"Next episode, the Robozord Corps face off against........... Dark Triad" NT by Last 12/12/2011, 8:01am PST
Re: white knight brigade by Arbit 12/12/2011, 9:00pm PST
replace title character's name with any local female, sing as needed by sdroa jists 12/16/2011, 11:30pm PST
human beings never sincerely say to each other "we need to talk" by sdroa jists 12/18/2011, 2:20pm PST
Diagnosis: Pussy NT by Mischief Maker 12/18/2011, 6:11pm PST
Josh Cable: A Man, Focused On His Career Right Now by hahahahaha 12/18/2011, 6:31pm PST
railroading men with DV accusations by sdroa jists 12/18/2011, 2:46pm PST
Re: railroading men with DV accusations by Mysterio Hive Mind 12/18/2011, 6:13pm PST
I think his OKCupid profile isn't getting a lot of hits. NT by :( 12/18/2011, 7:23pm PST
a close shave (that is still a horror show) by sdroa jists 01/01/2012, 2:54pm PST
It is never about the money. NT by Mischief Maker 01/01/2012, 3:11pm PST
It's about us. NT by FEELINGS 01/01/2012, 3:41pm PST
Actually yes. by Mischief Maker 01/01/2012, 6:09pm PST
This website is EXCELLENT, Josh! by hahahaha WELCOME OPPRESSED BROTHER 01/01/2012, 3:47pm PST
PS: SOCIETY HAS FAILED ME NT by hahahahaha 01/01/2012, 3:48pm PST
Re: a close shave (that is still a horror show) by ndd 01/01/2012, 9:03pm PST
men have responsibilities that perhaps they should shrug by sdroa jists 01/02/2012, 12:36pm PST
I also have a complaint about women. by Jerry Whorebach 01/02/2012, 1:46pm PST
you deserve your cats by sdroa jists 01/02/2012, 12:38pm PST
she's just being honest, I know it's a miracle by sdroa jists 01/02/2012, 12:41pm PST
I reported you to DHS Michigan for welfare fraud NT by Merry Christmas, happy new year &c 01/02/2012, 4:02pm PST
women need men more than etc whore tries to claim a lie as truth by sdroa jists 01/02/2012, 5:37pm PST
related: You can’t see beauty if everything is sexualised. by sdroa jists 01/02/2012, 7:25pm PST
I hope he was wearing his Klingon costume when he wrote that by Mischief Maker 01/02/2012, 7:33pm PST
tried to do the right thing until he woke up in jail by sdroa jists 01/03/2012, 5:03pm PST
How'd that happen??? by Mischief Maker 01/03/2012, 5:54pm PST
I was writing a post on Caltrops and suddenly the quote tag was fucked up HTH? NT by Mischief Maker 01/03/2012, 5:55pm PST
katy fucking perry still obsesses over alpha that turned her down by sdroa jists 01/04/2012, 8:30pm PST
Good thing REAL men don't obsess over the one that got away NT by Sassy 01/06/2012, 8:37am PST
this one can also apply to men (especially people here who hate me and joh) by sdroa jists 01/04/2012, 11:18pm PST
Hahahahaha! by Mischief Maker 01/05/2012, 12:19am PST
Re: Hahahahaha! by This is Chris's Blood 01/05/2012, 9:09am PST
The cure for any disease is to tell the patient "stop doing that". NT by Medicine, SOLVED FOREVER 01/06/2012, 9:05am PST
re by Mysterio 01/06/2012, 9:41am PST
The cure for cancer is to stop any malignant growths through willpower. by Medicine, SOLVED FOREVER 01/06/2012, 10:49am PST
You're being silly. by Mysterio 01/06/2012, 12:06pm PST
Addiction is a genetic, physical problem in the brain. Not a high BAC. by Medicine, SOLVED FOREVER 01/06/2012, 12:45pm PST
Re: Addiction is a genetic, physical problem in the brain. Not a high BAC. by Mysterio 01/06/2012, 1:02pm PST
You read the wrong part. by motherfuckerfoodeater 01/06/2012, 1:23pm PST
Oh well shit what do doctors know, you've got buddies. by Medicine, SOLVED FOREVER 01/06/2012, 1:39pm PST
Before you get any more retarded, please answer this by laudablepuss 01/06/2012, 3:08pm PST
As I understand it by Fullofkittens 01/06/2012, 4:21pm PST
When will we wake up and return to blame-based medicine? (Ron Paul 2012) NT by Fussbett 01/08/2012, 3:18am PST
The point about genetics... by Medicine, etc. 01/06/2012, 4:56pm PST
eh it's a lot easier to just brush them off as weak willed subhumans though NT by Worm 01/06/2012, 5:43pm PST
Re: The point about genetics... by Mysterio 01/06/2012, 6:28pm PST
Re: The point about genetics... by Medicine, etc. 01/06/2012, 7:26pm PST
So if I can stop at 4 beers can I begin to try heroin freely? NT by Worm 01/07/2012, 9:56am PST
Does alcoholism test work for heroin by Wrom 01/07/2012, 6:51pm PST
Time for anecdotal data! by Fussbett 01/07/2012, 12:29am PST
Re: Time for anecdotal data! by Mysterio 01/07/2012, 8:59am PST
Re: Time for anecdotal data! by Fussbett 01/08/2012, 3:13am PST
Alcoholism = cancer NT by worst caltrops expert ever 01/06/2012, 7:14pm PST
Norm Macdonald coveres this exact scenario in his special "Me Doing Standup" by Entropy Stew 01/06/2012, 9:25pm PST
what ever happened to equality? by sdroa jists 01/06/2012, 11:09pm PST
sponsored NT by 9gag.com 01/06/2012, 11:31pm PST
Sorry Zseni, I... just... can't... stop myself! by Mischief Maker 01/06/2012, 11:57pm PST
stupid desperate cunts are getting stupider, desperater by sdroa jists 01/09/2012, 6:52am PST
Which one of you trolled this kid so hard he has to keep posting these? NT by Laurence Fishburne 01/09/2012, 6:58am PST
That would be me. NT by MOOM 01/09/2012, 7:41am PST
Japan leads the way in sexless love by sdroa jists 01/15/2012, 7:50pm PST
B-b-but I thought Zseni's porn pix were supposed to stop you from posting these! NT by MM 01/16/2012, 5:13am PST
be extremely careful when being involved with any female by sdroa jists 01/15/2012, 11:36pm PST
If you decided to one day lose your virginity to a prostitute, would you make NT by him wear a woman's wig at least? 01/16/2012, 2:45am PST
everything anyone needed to know about women in a single thread by sdroa jists 01/19/2012, 4:56am PST
if women ceased to exist, debters prisons in america would be gone by sdroa jists 01/19/2012, 6:20pm PST
equality is kinda inconvenient when people might die by sdroa jists 01/21/2012, 7:57pm PST
white knights, the dumbest scum on earth by sdroa jists 01/22/2012, 6:46am PST
women destroy innocence, men are forced to pick up the pieces by sdroa jists 01/24/2012, 4:59am PST
Re: women destroy innocence, men are forced to pick up the pieces by Mischief Maker 01/24/2012, 6:06am PST
Ctrl-H 'wife' with 'boss' and the story becomes about a beta pussy fucking BETA by BOSSMOTIONAL TAMPON loser 01/24/2012, 8:46am PST
average shitty woman threatens to file false charges of assault over road rage by sdroa jists 01/26/2012, 5:18am PST
msm notices "mancession" moves into outright lying by sdroa jists 01/29/2012, 1:17pm PST
ALL RIGHJT LADIES DO MATH!...................................?.................! NT by serious thinkr 01/29/2012, 7:25pm PST
men no longer mass beat wives during super bowl, they just sex-traffick them by sdroa jists 01/30/2012, 1:01am PST
women are so good at empathy part 2: "murder my husband or I wont fuck you" by sdroa jists 02/02/2012, 7:15pm PST
what's the follow up, the women who mewled? by sdroa jists 02/09/2012, 5:49am PST
Dare to end up a bloated body floating down the Ganges. NT by Worm 02/09/2012, 9:10am PST
they'd spend the night with Ed Gein if he agreed to be their Valentine by sdroa jists 02/14/2012, 10:24am PST
"how this one day brings out women's neurotic tendencies." NT by Now THAT'S how you write a punchlin 02/14/2012, 10:47am PST
Re: they'd spend the night with Ed Gein if he agreed to be their Valentine by Hans Clastorp 02/14/2012, 11:31am PST
the token female on bering sea gold is an incompetent cunt by sdroa jists 02/17/2012, 3:36am PST
women can't go their own way by sdroa jists 02/17/2012, 4:03pm PST
Is it crazy to assume that most of the MGTOW men didn't have the option either? NT by Mysterio 02/17/2012, 4:48pm PST
don't need to burn your own hand to find out fire is hot by sdroa jists 02/21/2012, 7:49am PST
watch that show on mtv if you want a realistic look NT by gruman 02/21/2012, 7:54am PST
slashdot has gotten clued into women's bullshit by sdroa jists 02/23/2012, 1:21pm PST
Gosh, I guess you'd better not get married, then. NT by Huh, Josh? HAHAHAHAHAHAHA 02/23/2012, 5:43pm PST
It's indefensible. by Brandon Flick 02/23/2012, 8:46pm PST
what does any woman need with $1.5 billion? by sdroa jists 02/24/2012, 4:04am PST
women are the most evil real life super villains by sdroa jists 02/24/2012, 4:32am PST
“I’m not haaaaapy being trapped in marriage” before she gets married by sdroa jists 02/25/2012, 9:30am PST
it is now illegal for a man to hold a baby, also women are stupid some more by sdroa jists 02/27/2012, 8:41pm PST
That forum isn't even about women being evil. Just weak men bitching over wine. NT by Mischief Maker 02/27/2012, 8:54pm PST
Scientific studies validate Men's Rights Movement claims by Arbit 03/09/2012, 3:30pm PST
struck a nerve with the man haters, I know what that's like by sdroa jists 03/10/2012, 12:51pm PST
how sick and stupid are women at this point? by sdroa jists 03/12/2012, 8:37am PDT
Actually, Mediated Divorce IS like disassembling bolt-by-bolt! by Mischief Marketer 03/12/2012, 9:04am PDT
women could use more shaming by sdroa jists 03/12/2012, 9:25am PDT
Hey Josh, how did your last few dates go? NT by This is Chris's Blood 03/12/2012, 10:45am PDT
Jhoh always pays :) NT by Ends in mutual JO session. :) 03/12/2012, 11:24am PDT
Calling her out on her ad hominem fallacy by using an ignoratio elenchi fallacy! NT by Mischief Shai-hulud 03/13/2012, 12:07am PDT
This is as good a place as any by Oom Shnibble 03/12/2012, 12:23pm PDT
Re: This is as good a place as any by Mysterio 03/12/2012, 3:55pm PDT
Re: This is as good a place as any by Mischief Marketer 03/12/2012, 11:13pm PDT
think the cunts just want half? wrong, it's now up to 85% by sdroa jists 03/15/2012, 4:58pm PDT
Most virgins fantasize about wild sex, Jsoh fantasizes about messy divorce. NT by Wrom 03/15/2012, 6:49pm PDT
85% of the 50% Jhoh gives him, whaaaat is he a mathematician or a misogynist by Souffle of Pain 03/17/2012, 9:48am PDT
splc does men a huge favor by sdroa jists 03/18/2012, 3:23am PDT
Oh no, it's the Hooligans! Whatever will we do? What if they become Ruffians?!! NT by Mischief Scullywag 03/18/2012, 10:20am PDT
romance now = misogyny by sdroa jists 03/18/2012, 3:44am PDT
Stalkers? NT by Mischief Maker 03/20/2012, 6:29pm PDT
new shaming language code update! ivory by sdroa jists 03/20/2012, 4:04pm PDT
mastoring debating with women: the ban button by sdroa jists 03/22/2012, 11:04pm PDT
If men weren't just as emotional, I'd be out of a job. Poker Faces. NT by Mischief Maker 03/23/2012, 8:30am PDT
Also, we need a word for men like Jsoh who are "Master Debaters" against women. by Mischief Maker 03/23/2012, 8:40am PDT
BOOOOO. Laziest possible joke. NT by Last 03/23/2012, 12:17pm PDT
preemptive female ego preservation and that dumb cunt that can't do MPH by sdroa jists 03/23/2012, 5:14am PDT
women are a stupid novelty toy box by sdroa jists 03/24/2012, 3:28am PDT
So now girls can't call you faggot? What next? NT by Gutsby 03/25/2012, 3:33pm PDT
Re: women are a stupid novelty toy box NT by Mysterio 01/26/2013, 10:33pm PST
Trolling our own sister on twitter, plus bonus. by Claborsarls 04/05/2012, 11:29am PDT
She actually sounds pretty interesting. -nt- NT by Oom Shnibble 04/05/2012, 12:01pm PDT
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