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by Fullofkittens 10/19/2018, 8:02pm PDT |
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If you (you being anybody posting in this shitshow of a thread) have never had this experience: you are completely exhausted by stress and panic and grief, and some well-meaning friend or relative asked you "what can I do? Put me to work," and verbally you said "We're fine. Thank you. :)" when what you meant is "What am I, your fucking project manager? Fuck you. You get to go home and I am living this when I wake up tomorrow and the next day"...if you haven't had that experience yet, let me congratulate you on your lucky streak.
No one stays lucky forever. It is coming for you eventually. It probably won't take the form of depression! It will probably be something else that's more temporary!
Maybe your parent is going to spend a month on their deathbed and you're going to stay all night in the hospital. Maybe your kid will attempt suicide and you'll have to spend days with them on a suicide watch. Maybe you yourself will be diagnosed with some aggressive cancer. Maybe a surgical resident will fuck up your spouse's routine outpatient procedure and you'll sleep in the ICU waiting room for a month because you're afraid they'll die when you're not there. The last one is the one that happened to me and experience report: I had a lot of people stop by for a half hour, ask me what they could do, and then leave having done nothing. I didn't really want to put them out and they didn't really want to do anything anyway. There were a couple of people that showed up with snacks and crossword puzzles and to those people I have a deep well of gratitude a decade and a half later. My mother-in-law came and did laundry and that was amazing. I'm still a little pissed at everyone else.
(She's fine now.)
So yeah, people have a natural impulse to say "If there's anything I can do..." because of our cultural programming, but motherfucker, save it. Find a way to help, or just stop by and distract them with a funny story, but don't make them think about the pile of shit that they decided not to think about because of whatever problem they're experiencing. Bringing food feels like some kind of caveman brain way of helping that feels good for both the helper and the recipient, let that be your default. |
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Why nobody gives a shit about these people by bleh 10/15/2018, 7:03am PDT
Re: Why nobody gives a shit about these people by Mysteriobama 10/15/2018, 8:20pm PDT
This guy's childhood will never end NT by It's Pretty Bad 10/16/2018, 5:54pm PDT
How low have you sunk that you have to point at the mentally ill to feel good? NT by Mysterioso 10/16/2018, 8:30pm PDT
They don't want your help you enormous faggot, can't you read? NT by You are the oppressor, apparently 10/16/2018, 10:18pm PDT
That's not what it says. NT by Fullofkittens 10/17/2018, 6:33am PDT
I'm sorry you feel that way FoK, what can I do to help? NT by Find me a job for you 10/17/2018, 11:19am PDT
Let it go, FoK. Clearly the insensitive wording of the tweet triggered this kid. NT by MM 10/17/2018, 11:52am PDT
See you in November! NT by Mentally Ill democratic voting bloc 10/17/2018, 5:11pm PDT
So, we should be sensitive and respectful to the Mentally Ill NT by Unless it's Kanye? 10/17/2018, 6:45pm PDT
Who's talking about Kanye? NT by goalposts on the run 10/17/2018, 10:03pm PDT
A few days ago, the entirety of social media. NT by Goalposts, what a faggot 10/17/2018, 10:26pm PDT
Social media is saying NT by that you're a fag. 10/18/2018, 5:13am PDT
Another excellent post NT by from Laudableworm 10/18/2018, 8:38am PDT
Re: Another excellent post by Mysterio 10/18/2018, 10:42am PDT
I was just venting. Look at what they did NT by bleh 10/18/2018, 11:02am PDT
You're the worst one of the lot with that. NT by Laudableworm 10/18/2018, 7:04pm PDT
This thread requires a waffling "BOTH SIDES!" post from Worm first NT by to really be laudableworm 10/18/2018, 9:17pm PDT
You guys don't read anything, do you NT by laudablepuss 10/18/2018, 11:13pm PDT
The only thing I don't read is your banal NFL musings. NT by Laudableworm 10/19/2018, 1:49am PDT
Question: Do you believe that Depression and/or Bipolar Disorder exist? by Mischief Maker 10/19/2018, 8:23am PDT
Here is the part people (not I) have a problem with by Kenji Carter 10/19/2018, 1:55pm PDT
If decisions were eggs, you would lay cartons of them every single day. NT by You would be your own farm. 10/19/2018, 3:26pm PDT
Sympathy for people who aren't cunts by It's Pretty Bad 10/19/2018, 6:29pm PDT
Depressed cunt with child partner? I liked this movie better when it was called NT by "Cop and a Half" 10/19/2018, 6:56pm PDT
The OP advice is practical in all kinds of hard situations, not just mental illn by Fullofkittens 10/19/2018, 8:02pm PDT
Glad she's much better, FoK. by the emotionally damaged. 10/19/2018, 9:46pm PDT
Re: Glad she's much better, FoK. by Kenji Carter 10/19/2018, 11:20pm PDT
I'm sorry I didn't like your comic, laudable. NT by the emotionally damaged. 10/20/2018, 12:29am PDT
At least you had a good comeback instead of crying like a bitch NT by N/a 10/20/2018, 12:35pm PDT
In his response, he was thrust into the role of "commander" and NT by Oh 10/20/2018, 12:36pm PDT
It's a drunk post, but one I don't regret at all. by the emotionally damaged. 10/20/2018, 1:06pm PDT
LOL. NT by Oh 10/20/2018, 10:06am PDT
Poor Kanye, not being a progressive is just crazy. NT by the emotionally damaged. 10/19/2018, 9:02pm PDT
You're learning! NT by Mischief NPC 10/20/2018, 5:19am PDT
"There's too many posts here" - some fucking anonymous wretch by Kenji Carter 10/19/2018, 2:41pm PDT
I don't think that's what he said Laudable. Calm down. NT by the emotionally damaged. 10/19/2018, 9:04pm PDT
How what did i do NT by bleh 10/19/2018, 1:52pm PDT
I'm glad you posted this. by My Stereo 10/19/2018, 8:28am PDT
It's pretty good NT by Vested Id 10/16/2018, 11:09pm PDT
Why do people buy Chuck Tingle e-novels? NT by Humoring the mentally ill 10/17/2018, 1:29pm PDT
She's a whiny, passive-aggressive bitch. He's an incoherent, incel Mysterio by blackwater 10/17/2018, 9:32pm PDT
I'm gonna doxx this woman right now so somebody sends some Prozac by Roop 10/20/2018, 3:12am PDT
So... lawyer goes with insanity plea, entire concept of mental illness debunked? NT by MM 10/20/2018, 10:43am PDT
No reason to be transphobic, I just said she needs her Prozac NT by Roop 10/20/2018, 5:30pm PDT
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