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The OP advice is practical in all kinds of hard situations, not just mental illn by Fullofkittens 10/19/2018, 8:02pm PDT
If you (you being anybody posting in this shitshow of a thread) have never had this experience: you are completely exhausted by stress and panic and grief, and some well-meaning friend or relative asked you "what can I do? Put me to work," and verbally you said "We're fine. Thank you. :)" when what you meant is "What am I, your fucking project manager? Fuck you. You get to go home and I am living this when I wake up tomorrow and the next day"...if you haven't had that experience yet, let me congratulate you on your lucky streak.

No one stays lucky forever. It is coming for you eventually. It probably won't take the form of depression! It will probably be something else that's more temporary!

Maybe your parent is going to spend a month on their deathbed and you're going to stay all night in the hospital. Maybe your kid will attempt suicide and you'll have to spend days with them on a suicide watch. Maybe you yourself will be diagnosed with some aggressive cancer. Maybe a surgical resident will fuck up your spouse's routine outpatient procedure and you'll sleep in the ICU waiting room for a month because you're afraid they'll die when you're not there. The last one is the one that happened to me and experience report: I had a lot of people stop by for a half hour, ask me what they could do, and then leave having done nothing. I didn't really want to put them out and they didn't really want to do anything anyway. There were a couple of people that showed up with snacks and crossword puzzles and to those people I have a deep well of gratitude a decade and a half later. My mother-in-law came and did laundry and that was amazing. I'm still a little pissed at everyone else.

(She's fine now.)

So yeah, people have a natural impulse to say "If there's anything I can do..." because of our cultural programming, but motherfucker, save it. Find a way to help, or just stop by and distract them with a funny story, but don't make them think about the pile of shit that they decided not to think about because of whatever problem they're experiencing. Bringing food feels like some kind of caveman brain way of helping that feels good for both the helper and the recipient, let that be your default.
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Why nobody gives a shit about these people by bleh 10/15/2018, 7:03am PDT NEW
    Re: Why nobody gives a shit about these people by Mysteriobama 10/15/2018, 8:20pm PDT NEW
    This guy's childhood will never end NT by It's Pretty Bad 10/16/2018, 5:54pm PDT NEW
        How low have you sunk that you have to point at the mentally ill to feel good? NT by Mysterioso 10/16/2018, 8:30pm PDT NEW
            They don't want your help you enormous faggot, can't you read? NT by You are the oppressor, apparently 10/16/2018, 10:18pm PDT NEW
                That's not what it says. NT by Fullofkittens 10/17/2018, 6:33am PDT NEW
                    I'm sorry you feel that way FoK, what can I do to help? NT by Find me a job for you 10/17/2018, 11:19am PDT NEW
                        Let it go, FoK. Clearly the insensitive wording of the tweet triggered this kid. NT by MM 10/17/2018, 11:52am PDT NEW
                            See you in November! NT by Mentally Ill democratic voting bloc 10/17/2018, 5:11pm PDT NEW
                            So, we should be sensitive and respectful to the Mentally Ill NT by Unless it's Kanye? 10/17/2018, 6:45pm PDT NEW
                                Who's talking about Kanye? NT by goalposts on the run 10/17/2018, 10:03pm PDT NEW
                                    A few days ago, the entirety of social media. NT by Goalposts, what a faggot 10/17/2018, 10:26pm PDT NEW
                                        Social media is saying NT by that you're a fag. 10/18/2018, 5:13am PDT NEW
                                            Another excellent post NT by from Laudableworm 10/18/2018, 8:38am PDT NEW
                                                Re: Another excellent post by Mysterio 10/18/2018, 10:42am PDT NEW
                                                    I was just venting. Look at what they did NT by bleh 10/18/2018, 11:02am PDT NEW
                                                        You're the worst one of the lot with that. NT by Laudableworm 10/18/2018, 7:04pm PDT NEW
                                                            This thread requires a waffling "BOTH SIDES!" post from Worm first NT by to really be laudableworm 10/18/2018, 9:17pm PDT NEW
                                                                You guys don't read anything, do you NT by laudablepuss 10/18/2018, 11:13pm PDT NEW
                                                                    The only thing I don't read is your banal NFL musings. NT by Laudableworm 10/19/2018, 1:49am PDT NEW
                                                                        Question: Do you believe that Depression and/or Bipolar Disorder exist? by Mischief Maker 10/19/2018, 8:23am PDT NEW
                                                                            Here is the part people (not I) have a problem with by Kenji Carter 10/19/2018, 1:55pm PDT NEW
                                                                                If decisions were eggs, you would lay cartons of them every single day. NT by You would be your own farm. 10/19/2018, 3:26pm PDT NEW
                                                                                Sympathy for people who aren't cunts by It's Pretty Bad 10/19/2018, 6:29pm PDT NEW
                                                                                    Depressed cunt with child partner? I liked this movie better when it was called NT by "Cop and a Half" 10/19/2018, 6:56pm PDT NEW
                                                                            The OP advice is practical in all kinds of hard situations, not just mental illn by Fullofkittens 10/19/2018, 8:02pm PDT NEW
                                                                                Glad she's much better, FoK. by the emotionally damaged. 10/19/2018, 9:46pm PDT NEW
                                                                                    Re: Glad she's much better, FoK. by Kenji Carter 10/19/2018, 11:20pm PDT NEW
                                                                                        I'm sorry I didn't like your comic, laudable. NT by the emotionally damaged. 10/20/2018, 12:29am PDT NEW
                                                                                            At least you had a good comeback instead of crying like a bitch NT by N/a 10/20/2018, 12:35pm PDT NEW
                                                                                                In his response, he was thrust into the role of "commander" and NT by Oh 10/20/2018, 12:36pm PDT NEW
                                                                                                    It's a drunk post, but one I don't regret at all. by the emotionally damaged. 10/20/2018, 1:06pm PDT NEW
                                                                                        LOL. NT by Oh 10/20/2018, 10:06am PDT NEW
                                                                            Poor Kanye, not being a progressive is just crazy. NT by the emotionally damaged. 10/19/2018, 9:02pm PDT NEW
                                                                                You're learning! NT by Mischief NPC 10/20/2018, 5:19am PDT NEW
                                                                        "There's too many posts here" - some fucking anonymous wretch by Kenji Carter 10/19/2018, 2:41pm PDT NEW
                                                                            I don't think that's what he said Laudable. Calm down. NT by the emotionally damaged. 10/19/2018, 9:04pm PDT NEW
                                                            How what did i do NT by bleh 10/19/2018, 1:52pm PDT NEW
                                                        I'm glad you posted this. by My Stereo 10/19/2018, 8:28am PDT NEW
            It's pretty good NT by Vested Id 10/16/2018, 11:09pm PDT NEW
            Why do people buy Chuck Tingle e-novels? NT by Humoring the mentally ill 10/17/2018, 1:29pm PDT NEW
            She's a whiny, passive-aggressive bitch. He's an incoherent, incel Mysterio by blackwater 10/17/2018, 9:32pm PDT NEW
    I'm gonna doxx this woman right now so somebody sends some Prozac by Roop 10/20/2018, 3:12am PDT NEW
        So... lawyer goes with insanity plea, entire concept of mental illness debunked? NT by MM 10/20/2018, 10:43am PDT NEW
            No reason to be transphobic, I just said she needs her Prozac NT by Roop 10/20/2018, 5:30pm PDT NEW
 
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