Forum Overview :: OMM and Caltrops History :: Re: My bucks

[quote name="Quétinbec"][quote name="Ulrachi"] Honest question: can bribery help?[/quote] I was shocked at the number and quality of people that suggested I get the mother 'taken care of' and said they knew people to do it. It freaked me out to the point that now I only meet the Mum at the back of the large lobbies of 5 star hotels, or in crowded shopping malls, because if respectable Filipinos are suggesting this and even quoting prices, imagine the kind of killers she'd have access to in the slums. It's one of the reasons I pay a steady stream of money to her - the threat of that drying up in the event of my death. I got a couple of Filipino lawyers once. They were worse than useless. After I discovered I didn't have a legal leg to stand on because he's illegitimate, I paid them to have dinner with her to try to convince her to share custody. They drafted a document for her to sign and suggested I route all payments to her through them. That was the plan. She won them over with tears and they suggested she attack me via the NZ legal system - even going so far as to recommend her some pro-bono lawyer here! That never amounted to shit but scared me for a while. Fucking bitches. As far as bribes go, the closest I could get would be to bribe someone in the child protective services to declare her an unfit mother, but that would still need to go to court which would take years and, most importantly, require me to spend those years in her shitbox city. Fuck that. Even if they found in my favour, she has always threatened to run off with my son 'into the mountains'. I used to threaten her all kinds of ways for the first few years, but I've found the most successful tactic is not to give a fuck. I think initially, I was just pretending not to give a fuck, but as the years have passed, I think I actually don't give much of a fuck. It's easy not to give a fuck when you hardly know the kid, he hardly looks like you, and you're sitting on a jet ski somewhere far, far away. I used to have to pay her for her to send me pictures of him. Now, she sends me pictures of him for free to try to keep me engaged. It's crucial not to give a fuck. I've lost track of who I have and haven't told about this kid, so I tend not to talk about him unless someone brings him up. Sometimes, I'll be talking to a good friend and I'll be like, "Oh, we're gonna swing by and see [illegitimate kid] in May." And they'll say, "Who's [illegitimate kid]?" And then I'll be, like, "Oh, fuck man. You don't know about this kid? Sorry. That's a long story." And, of course, the whole situation makes me look like shit so my wife never tells any of her friends. Could make things awkward when/if he comes here in June. Ultimately, he's gonna have to want to leave her, and she'll have to consent to him leaving. That'll be tough as she's made him completely dependent on her to get dressed, eat, use the toilet, brush his teeth, etc... She sent a video of him eating a pancake at a restaurant a couple of months ago because she was proud of him feeding himself. He held the utensils like a retard and could barely do it. He's 7 years old. [/quote]