What is striking about the loss of courtship is that:

It is largely un-mourned.
It was lost by the choices and actions of women, not men.

I suspect there is a relationship between 1 and 2 above, plus a heavy dose of denial. Women fixated on the opportunity to string out the courtship process like an addict looking at a crack pipe. And as with crack, the first hits were free. Young women are diving enthusiastically into the hookup market because while they aren’t getting the full courtship deal, they are getting the excitement of attention from the most popular men.

Not all women looking to extend the courtship process choose to engage in hookups however. On the other end of the spectrum we see religious women saving their virginity (or sort of virginity) through their late twenties and even early thirties. They proudly wear the traditional mantel even though in a traditional society they would be considered old maids for extending their search for a husband for so long. Some of these women are simply too picky and being unrealistic about their own league. Others are also extending the process because at some level they enjoy the process more than they anticipate enjoying being married to their suitor. Other women marry and enjoy the attention, validation, and intense investment which comes with making a lifelong commitment, only to eject from the marriage when they become bored.

Whether the woman is a forever chaste damsel, carousel rider, or divorcée however, she will almost always grow exhausted by her own choice addiction. We hear most often from divorcées, who start with the assumption that their past failure to keep a lifetime promise won’t deter would be suiters from seeing them as a good potential investment for courtship.