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Hey hey by Ice Cream Jonsey 01/15/2020, 9:58am PST
laudablepuss wrote:

Her funeral was today, and it went pretty well. She was beautiful to me, but certain factors had caused her to deteriorate just a bit. I fixed her bracelets and necklace, and gave her her tiny crucifix to hold between her hands. She had her engagement and wedding band on, the ones I had never had a chance to formally give her but that she had helped pick out.

I had two giant pictures of her made up, so that was what people really focused on. Really good pictures. I had created a slideshow with some music that she liked (and in fact had suggested I should play at her funeral -- we had sadly talked about this before since we both have health issues) and we ended with another song that she loved. I spoke and it went over pretty well. The pastor was pretty good and I'm thankful for his help and the use of the church.

Anyway, I guess I feel a little bit better. I still cry and I bet that won't change soon. And I still talk to her like she's right next to me. ("Please don't make me watch Golden Girls, honey", after seeing it while hunting around for something to watch.) But that was a nice service and a fair number of people came to say their farewells.

Thanks again. One last note: holy shit it's hard to keep a wedding band on your finger! I have a little washer in front now because I'm terrified of losing this thing. I seem to have a trick vanishing knuckle. I'll get it resized or something. Yeesh.


I am sorry that I could not make the funeral. Events conspired and I am a bit mad about it, but I am glad that you were able to have a nice service, my friend.

Please don't stop writing. You have been writing things for as long as I have known you. If you don't want to write them here I understand but feel welcome to do so. But communicating what you are feeling now and in the moment will let you remember things that you want to remember years from now. It will probably be impossible to sleep but once you do fall asleep giving your brain time to process this horribleness is what it needs the most.

Resizing a ring is pretty easy - there is a place I can recommend near 14th and Market in Denver if you're up this way. You just let the guy pull out his giant keyring of holes and put them over your finger and he figures out the size, then it puts the ring in a baggie and resizes it and calls you a week later. It is a million times better to do that then wonder when it's going to fall off and then hit you with all this all over again.

You may worry that people are going to think you are tedious if you talk about her too much. Ignore this feeling, talk about her. To your family, your friends, your co-worker, me, Caltrops, everyone. People either had someone pass and they get it or they haven't had that life experience and their opinions don't matter anyway.

In fact, I would invite you right now to tell me a story about her, something that brings you a pleasant memory. If and when you are up to it, friend.


ICJ
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My girlfriend passed away this morning at 8:18 am by laudablepuss 12/29/2019, 11:41am PST NEW
    Take some some time and decompress by The Happiness Engine 12/29/2019, 12:18pm PST NEW
    Oh my god, that's horrible! by Mischief Maker 12/29/2019, 3:28pm PST NEW
    Re: My girlfriend passed away this morning at 8:18 am by Mysteriobama 12/29/2019, 5:51pm PST NEW
    I am so horrified to hear this news my friend. by Ice Cream Jonsey 12/29/2019, 8:00pm PST NEW
    My god by So incredibly awful 12/29/2019, 8:41pm PST NEW
    I’m sorry to hear that. Nothing to add but by blackwater 12/29/2019, 10:23pm PST NEW
    Re: My girlfriend passed away this morning at 8:18 am by Roop 12/30/2019, 3:42am PST NEW
        Re: My girlfriend passed away this morning at 8:18 am by laudablepuss 01/10/2020, 10:57pm PST NEW
    You're next NT by hahahahahaha 12/30/2019, 12:02pm PST NEW
        Wow, that's vile even for this place. NT by pinback 12/30/2019, 3:32pm PST NEW
        Strike one douchebag. NT by Dick Clownshoes 12/30/2019, 5:47pm PST NEW
        Re: You're next by Mysterio 12/31/2019, 4:54am PST NEW
    holy shit, laudable by kyrie derbingingle 12/30/2019, 10:01pm PST NEW
    What happened? NT by Jack Bauer 12/31/2019, 6:39am PST NEW
    The story plus a gofundme by laudablepuss 01/01/2020, 10:59am PST NEW
        Ah, shit, welcome to "The Club" by The Happiness Engine 01/02/2020, 7:38pm PST NEW
            Re: Ah, shit, welcome to "The Club" by laudablepuss 01/10/2020, 6:49pm PST NEW
        Just for historical purposes by laudablepuss 12/24/2020, 12:41am PST NEW
    Gofundme is over, thank you! by laudablepuss 01/10/2020, 6:47pm PST NEW
    Last update, sorry for this sad thread by laudablepuss 01/14/2020, 9:44pm PST NEW
        Hey hey by Ice Cream Jonsey 01/15/2020, 9:58am PST NEW
            Don't talk about her too much by Vested Id 01/15/2020, 3:50pm PST NEW
        thoughts one year later (long, rambling, awful) by laudablepuss 12/24/2020, 12:22am PST NEW
            This is a really good story. by Jerry Whorebach 12/24/2020, 6:29am PST NEW
                :) NT by laudablepuss 12/24/2020, 9:03am PST NEW
            Re: thoughts one year later (long, rambling, awful) by Mischief Maker 12/24/2020, 10:57am PST NEW
                I agree, I hope you will tell us more stories about her when you can, lp. NT by Horus Truthteller 12/24/2020, 12:23pm PST NEW
                This covers everything I wanted to say. by The Happiness Engine 12/27/2020, 12:24pm PST NEW
            so we're done with urgentcare for the night ourselves by Saltlord 12/24/2020, 5:15pm PST NEW
                I somehow missed this reply! by laudablepuss 09/12/2021, 7:54am PDT NEW
            My attendance here is spotty, so I missed this before. by Entropy Stew 12/27/2020, 1:00pm PST NEW
            I'm sorry, laudablepuss. by Fullofkittens 12/27/2020, 1:35pm PST NEW
 
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